Sometimes the silence isn’t born out of conflict, but confusion. Miscommunication can quietly drive a wedge between generations.
Parents might believe their children know they are always welcome, while their children may hesitate, unsure how often is too often to call or visit. When expectations go unspoken, assumptions take over – and those assumptions often lead to distance.
Narcissistic parenting
In more complex family dynamics, narcissistic parenting can create long-term emotional damage. When a parent consistently puts their own needs above their child’s or fails to show empathy, they sow the seeds of detachment early on. These wounds often resurface in adulthood when the child finally gains the independence to step back – and often, chooses to do so.
“Went no contact completely afterwards and wished I did years sooner. I resent all the wasted years too scared and intimidated by my narcissistic mother,” writes one user in a Reddit thread titled: “Children of narcissistic parents, how did you turn out as adults?”
A second user writes: “I’ve healed a lot since I have gone low to no contact with my bio family.”
The result isn’t always total estrangement, but it can lead to significantly reduced contact. In such cases, children may only reach out when necessary – or not at all.
Although family dynamics naturally evolve over time, emotional connection doesn’t have to disappear with fewer visits. Sometimes, meaningful change begins not with a phone call or a plane ticket, but with a heartfelt conversation.
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