“People who are narcissists are almost proud of the fact,” Brad Bushman, one of the study’s co-authors, said at the time. “You can ask them directly because they don’t see narcissism as a negative quality—they believe they are superior to other people and are fine with saying that publicly.”
7 common phrases
A Harvard-trained psychologist, Dr. Cortney S. Warren, says she’s seen seven common phrases from highly narcissistic people:
”You’re lucky I even care.”
They see themselves as superior and expect others to feel grateful.
Similar quotes: “You don’t deserve me.” “You should feel relieved that I haven’t cut you out of my life.”
“You’re so pathetic.”
When disappointed, they use insults to tear people down.
Similar quotes: “You’re such a loser.” “No one else would ever want to be with you.”
“You need me.”
They rely on threats or manipulation to maintain control.
Similar quotes: “Be careful or you’ll push me away.” “I’ll ruin you if you cross me…”
“You are wrong to feel that way.”
They struggle to recognize others as having valid, independent feelings.
Similar quotes: “My feelings matter more.” “I’m usually right.”
“Everyone else is an idiot.”
They boost their ego by putting others down.
Similar quotes: “Your friend is lame.” “These people have nothing to offer me.”
“I don’t have time for this.”
They stonewall or withdraw as a way to assert control.
Similar quotes: “I’m fine. What are you even talking about?” or silence.
The best response
According to Dr. Cortney S. Warren, you shouldn’t react emotionally. Pause and say, “I need to think about this before I respond, so I’m going to need a minute.” Then set boundaries such as:
“I hear you, I just don’t agree with you.”
